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4 posts from September 2007

September 25, 2007

WHAT I LOVE ABOUT MY PARTNER: TURNING GOOD RELATIONSHIPS INTO GREAT RELATIONSHIPS

For those of you who are satisfied in your relationship and actually enjoy coming home to your partner, here’s a quick tip to keep it going:

Don’t take any of the positive things for granted.

Too often we can forget to give thanks for our blessings. We need to take the time to appreciate.

One way to do this is to take a moment to jot down ten things you love about your partner. You can write anything that you admire, find cute, appreciate, or just plain like about your partner. This does NOT have to be a deep, gut wrenching, soul-searching list--just authentic and simple.

For example, the things I appreciate and love about my husband (Hi honey:-)) include:

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September 20, 2007

RELATIONSHIP TENETS TO LIVE BY

Over the years I’ve learned to define my own rules for relationships based on what I felt was right for me and respectful to those around me. Here are the ten top ones I do my best to live by. I hope you find these as helpful in your relationships as I’ve found them to be in mine.

1. I surround myself with people who are respectful to me at all times-even in anger.

2. I ask for what I want, not what I think I’ll get.

3. I treat others well and hold others accountable for treating me well.

4. I share what I want to share, not what I believe others want me to share.

5. I apologize whenever I am in the wrong. I don’t apologize just to help others feel better.

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September 12, 2007

ARE YOU IN A MISERABLE RELATIONSHIP? IF SO, IT’S TIME TO EITHER STEP IN AND WORK IT, OR STEP OUT AND LEAVE IT.

This past week between the hustle and bustle of moving, unpacking, seeing clients, changing e-mails…I have been taken aback by the number of disgruntled, stagnant couples that have shown up in my life. Have you ever seen or been a part of a disgruntled stagnant couple? If so, then you know it’s not pretty or fun.

Here are a few warning signs of disgruntled, stagnant couples:
1. The partners barely talk to one another about anything intimate and sometimes about anything at all.
2. If the partners do talk, it’s about the children, problems, work, or how angry they are with one another.
3. Typically there is one extremely unhappy partner and one partner who’s indifferent or walled off.
4. The couple has been unhappy for years yet has done little to make any real changes. The very unhappy one may have asked to do some couples work yet when their partner refused, they dropped the subject.
5. They use unhealthy ways to cope with their unhappiness such as: excessive work, a few drinks each night, prolonged computer/internet use etc.
6. Both partners are fairly miserable and feel trapped, hopeless, resigned, or just plain angry.

If you are in a relationship like this chances are you are fairly miserable. It’s likely that your home is seen as a place of stress rather than a place of refuge, and if you had your choice you’d avoid it at all costs.

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September 04, 2007

THE MOVE IS ON

Hello,
I am busy packing my house up for our big move this week so I will be off line until Monday the 10th. My husband and I are doing our best to be relational, calm, and centered while we make it through this week of transitions. Oh did I mention that we are moving, my husband is starting a new job, and my son has started a new school...all in the same ten days!!!

Now that's a future post--THE IMPORTANCE OF SPREADING OUT TRANSITIONS:-).
I'll fill you in when I get back.

In the meantime, be relational, get centered, and have fun.

If you try to reach me by e-mail I will be off line until Friday at which point my e-mail address will be changed to l.merlobooth@charter.net

Have a great week to all.

Warmly,
Lisa

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