SHOULD I STAY OR SHOULD I GO? GETTING OUT OF LIMBO IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP

Unfortunately many people struggle to land in their relationships.  What I mean by land, is they stay ambivalent about being in it and subsequently they neither work the relationship to get it better nor leave it to move on:  in essence they stay in limbo.  By neither committing nor leaving, they end up wasting precious years of their lives. 

 

I found a great book about making the decision to end your relationship or work it titled:  Too Good to Leave Too Bad to Stay by Mira Kirshenbaum.  If you’re trapped in the endless cycle of weighing the pros and cons of staying versus going then stop that ineffective dance and get this book.

 

This book is a great tool to help those who truly want to…land.  The author systematically asks the reader to address one question at a time (which she calls guidelines).  With each answer the author tells the reader what the statistics show regarding the happiness of people who stayed in the relationship with that issue versus those who left the relationship with that issue.  For example, one of her questions has to do with whether or not you genuinely like your partner (and vice versa).  If the answer is no, she tells you whether you’re likely to be happier staying or going…based on other people who left/stayed with that same answer.  There are thirty six guidelines that, if answered honestly, should help you out of the quagmire of should I stay or should I go?  

 

Staying on the fence in a relationship is not helpful to anyone.  If you choose to stay, then truly make that choice by putting everything you have into making it work; don’t just be a body taking up space.  If you choose to leave, then walk.  Don’t be a revolving door constantly changing your mind.  You deserve better…and so does your partner.

 

If you’re tired of constantly questioning whether this is the right relationship for you and you truly want to make a decision to leave or commit, then go get this book.  It’s an easy read with lots of insightful guidelines for those serious about getting out of limbo once and for all.

 

CHALLENGE:  If you’ve been on the fence about your relationship and struggle with knowing whether you should stay or go…get the book.  Sit down in a comfortable quiet space and methodically go through the book with total honesty.  Allow the chips to fall where they may, make your decision, and then have the courage to stand behind your choice.  Let us know how it goes!

Comments

[carol]

This is a FABULOUS book!!!! I have read it and gathered the courage to leave an 18 yr+ relationship after much thought and consideration. Cannot stress what a great book this really is.

A must-read in my opinion.

[Anita]

Your Web Page has helped me a lot so wanted to say thank you....

[Monika]

I think this article was a great plug for the book but useless to people actually seeking advice.

[Sara]

Hi I just got out of a 3 month relationship because I realized that it wasn't worth fighting for. I wanted marriage, kids and a lot more. He kept saying he wasn't ready, he still wanted to have fun. I started asking myself what I was doing...was I going to settle...then I realized I would never truly be happy and it was unfair to him and to me so I walked.