I often hear people proudly say that they’ve never hit their child or loved ones in an effort to defend how they speak to them (I.e.: “I may call my son a wimp, but at least I don’t hit him”). I’ve never heard so clearly however, the absurdity of justifying ones words by the lack of physical beatings as I heard today when Sarah shared a little saying of her grandmother’s. The loving saying (I say this in jest mind you) went like this: “I never laid a hand on my children, but I could peel the skin off their back with my tongue”.
Yikes…I could not have expressed the toxicity of cutting words more perfectly myself, no matter how hard I tried. You have to love these little quips for providing us with wonderful life lessons on what NOT to do.
The reality is that words can be just as painful, scarring, and brutal as fists and belts. Being proud of never striking your partner or child is wonderful… if you’re also being loving and respectful. If you believe however, that as long as you don’t hit your loved ones you’re okay--think again. Abuse is the maltreatment of a person and it is harmful regardless of whether the weapon of choice is your hand or mouth.