After working with hundreds of women throughout the years, I can safely say that women settle for poor relationships all the time. This settling often starts during the early stages of dating and expands from there. Therefore, I’m writing this post in an effort to help women stop settling and get off to a great, versus wobbly, start in their relationships.
If you’re a woman looking to find a lasting, healthy relationship with a great, relational man, then commit to changing the way you date. Ignore much of the traditional advice about dating, such as: be coy, keep them guessing, play hard to get, focus on them, etc. If you’re serious about finding someone to have a future with, stop playing games and get real. Below are five tips to help you find a great potential life partner.
- Switch from being the “choosee” to being the chooser. Too many women go into dating hoping the man will like them. You need to be clear with yourself that you’re the one deciding if you like him. Stop trying to bend yourself backwards to try to be attractive to him. Know that you’re trying to figure out if he’s a good fit for you. Pretend you’re an employer trying to hire the best person for the job. Check their credentials, make sure they meet all the job requirements, be certain they have good social skills (treat you with respect, ask about you, listen, etc.) and don’t settle for less than you’re looking for.